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The Magic Of Self-Confidence

And here I am, started with Chess at tender age of 17...
I always expressed my goals without any fear. I keep saying to everyone that I will reach 3000 FIDE and become the world champion like an idiot. But it feels good to say what you have inside out loud even though people think you are dumb!
Me thinking crossing 2000 fide is already impossible :o
Maybe I was a little too critical in my previous comment. I agree on the sentence about being sure about his own ambitions. I do not plan to become a titled player, I am content with being an ordinary club player. But still, I want to play some good games and I still hate to lose a game.
Nothing wrong with ambitions, but I find that most of the time, ambition itself becomes more of a hindrance than a benefit. Ideally let your skill find its own path and don't try to limit yourself. Most important thing is having fun and enjoying playing. Children learn through having fun, they go do what they like, and coincidentally I believe that this is best way to learn, superior to all others. Having lived a long life (I'm 50 years old currently) I would also say, that the moments I really discovered things in life was through having fun, not the opposite. So don't waste life by trying to master it, - live it to master it. Like Bruce Lee said - "I do not hit, it hits all by itself." Chess is like swimming or riding a bike, it works best when you do not think too much about how to do it, it functions primarily through the autonomous nervous system, that is; you don't have to do it, it does so all by itself. - Consider when you're sitting at the chess board. What you see or do not see is only partially because you look and think about the position, - about 99% of it is about just how good you were before you sat down at the board and playing the game. This is why you almost never see any patzers beating chess masters, not because the patzers do not sit there and think properly about their next move, but because the masters have a whole lot of experience and skill that plays out in ways that has little to nothing to do with the next move but with chess overall - that would be chess knowledge, understanding of position, plans, how the pieces coordinate, and so on an so forth. - So your ambitions in chess, in my opinion, should be to have fun and simply learn and play and let things take their own course.
A confident and positive mindset can be both the cause of your actions and the result of them. The link between physical performance and mental attitude is a two-way street. Confidence is often the result of displaying your ability.
Exactly @Square0 - to have fun is the best way of improving. I had even fun with some draws (against titled players). These were more valuable for me than some wins against beginners.
There is nothing wrong with ambitions. However, I remember a sentence by Garfield (the orange cat) "I get nosebleeds from ambition". This is exaggerated, of couse, but my point is that ambition does not have to be 100% of the game, and when you are having fun it is ok, even when you are not super-successful.
There is also nothing wrong with learning, I like to learn from my games. But sometimes we just want to have fun - i remember a sentence from Calvin (the boy with the stuffed tiger) after a crazy (but fun) action - "I hope we didn't learn anything from that". ;)